Compassion in Action: Supporting Theta Sisters and Your Community During Disaster and Loss
01/15/2025
Over the past week, the world has watched as parts of Southern California have been devasted by fires. Unfortunately, disasters like this are no longer uncommon. Just a few months ago, the southeastern United States was impacted by Hurricanes Helene and Milton, amassing approximately $250 billion in damage and the loss at least 250 lives.
When disasters like these occur, it can be overwhelming to watch as tragedy unfolds. When our loved ones are affected, it is common to feel helpless, especially if you are not physically close to those important to you. In these moments, it is important to remember that you can turn your compassion into action even when you feel far away. Below are some tips on how to connect with those affected by disaster and show support, no matter how far away you may be.
- Reach out to those who you know may be affected. When you do, let them know that it’s okay if they don’t get back to you quickly. In high-pressure situations, it can feel overwhelming updating many people at once.
- Provide those affected with options on how you can support them. Be prepared for your connection(s) to not be okay. Oftentimes, we reach out as a courtesy, but we’re not sure what to do when members of our community actually need help. This alleviates the burden of decision-making and makes it easier to accept help in chaotic and high-stress moments. For example, you can offer for someone to stay with you if they need to evacuate; you can offer material items like clothing or supplies; you can ask what kind of resources they need that you can seek out for them; or you can simply provide emotional support as an ear to listen and a shoulder to lean on.
- Avoid sentences of support that start with “At least…” In our efforts to support others, we often try to encourage people to look on the bright side: “At least you are safe, “At least it’s not as bad as others,” etc. Instead, allow your connections to grieve anything that has been lost including material items, their community, memories, or their sense of security and comfort.
- Offer to update others or contribute to aid resources or charitable organizations in your connection’s area. Doing so can alleviate their stress in the moment and support the affected community.
- Continue to reach out after the “storm has passed.” Often, the lasting effects of a tragedy or disaster set in days or even weeks after they initially occur. Following up with your connection lets them know that you have not forgotten about their loss and are still available to provide support.
Remember that every situation is different, and everyone has different reactions and needs. Your work as a community member is to make sure that your connections know that all emotions surrounding a loss are valid and that they feel supported during and after any disaster they experience.
As a support system, it is also important to take care of yourself. Watching instances of natural disasters can be incredibly stressful and even traumatic, especially if you yourself have experienced this type of loss. In these moments, it is okay to reduce your capacity for support and take time away from the news. Check out the Mental Health Resources page on this website.
If you or someone you know is experiencing emotional stress due to a natural or human-caused disaster, the Disaster Distress Helpline from SAMHSA provides 24/7, 365-a-day-a-year crisis counseling and support. Call or text 1-800-985-5990 for help.